HOW CAN I HELP MYSELF FEEL BETTER

There are times we find ourselves in deep sadness or in what may seem as an uncontrollable lope of raging anger. 

There's something comforting about staying in these feelings; Somehow it gives us a false sense of security as if we have control over our lives. But is it really true? 

The questions we should keep asking ourselves at any given moment are: "Is this making me feel good? Is this how I want to live my life?"

"How are these thoughts in my head affecting me on a daily basis? Are they bringing any benefit to me or anybody around me? Am I getting ahead in life, or am I stuck in place?"

If it doesn't make you feel joy in your heart, if it doesn't contribute to your growth, then why do it? Is there an alternative? 

In order for us to create change and become the masters in our lives, we need to stay open and receptive to new knowledge; Instead of clinging to our old view dogma, we must consider other ways of seeing and understanding reality. 

Change is not about negotiating the level of discomfort we are willing to undergo. It is about realizing that it is the golden path to true happiness and inner peace. 

It is about finding a way to empower ourselves to discover the real and true person we are. 

What's shaping our thinking pattern and how can we change it?

It may seem like our reality is fixed but it isn't. It is our conditioning: everything we were exposed to. 

We gather information, form conclusions and go on to live our lives. 

"Master your mind, master your life: Just because you happen to have a thought doesn't make it true."

Our power lies in the way we relate/react to our circumstances: We must remember that we are the ones responsible for creating the content in our lives depending on the meaning we attach to all occurrences. 

1) Firstly, we must be willing to let go of what is holding us back. 

2) we must seek the information we need and be willing to make the necessary changes on our way to achieving our goals. 

3) we must create a vision to be able to live our dreams – identify our passion, erase the “tape” and create updated software, one that will serve us best. Stop entertaining disparaging thoughts and repeating that dialogue in our heads over and over.  

Why must we modify and create change? Because that's what we came here to do; Not to relieve recycled undesirable thoughts and emotions that are causing us nothing but misery.

Once we attain the necessary clarity and awareness we need, we'll gain the freedom to reshape our thought pattern and finally achieve inner peace. 

As if by magic, we will live purposefully; Improve and build long lasting, supportive and loving relationships, because that's what truly matters in life. 

We will be able to overcome challenges and and even resolve deep seeded issues that are stoping us from becoming who we want to be. 

We will finally stop dreaming and begin creating and manifesting the life we want to live by discovering our talents and harness them to better our lives.

Once we realize that the power to alter and change life as we know it, resides in the thoughts that are occupying our minds, we will be more equipped to intentionally CHOOSE what we rather experience in life

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND ALL THAT YOU ARE

We were born to build, to create, not to sit around cross-legged, waiting for life to be submitted to us on a silver platter. 

Most of us were not fortunate to be born as princes's in some magical kingdom.

We came here to create Light from darkness, to create wholeness from the incomplete, whether it's our intimate relationships, work related or anything else. Every moment we get to choose; either way ...

We must internalize that because we are part of creation, the "children" of the Creator who created all that exists, we also have the ability to bring about a sustainable reality as we envision it to be. 

We are not puppets on strings, we're are not mindless robots. Although sometimes it may seems to be the case. 

We need to wake up to the realization that each of us is a powerful creator.

It may sound unreal, perhaps a bit farfetched. However, once we take the time to ponder on it a bit, we will find out that it is as real as it gets. 

In retrospect, we can see all of our achievements in life, who created them? That's right, we did!

Truth be said, it isn't easy adapting to this way of thinking, given the reality we live (what appears to us as reality), but it is not an  impossibility. 

With a great desire to make a positive change in our lives, as well as do our best to better the lives of others, anything can happen, but it depends only upon us.

We can breath life into  what we dream about! 

All we need is to acquire the necessary knowledge, have a vivid imagination and an open mind, as well as develop our curiosity and enthusiasm to reveal more; mainly discovering who we truly are and anything can be achievable! 

Do not be afraid; Dare to be boundless, believe that all the help you need is provided for you from up above; You are truly capable of anything your mind can conceive. 

How far will you go to succeed?

GOD'S INFINITE LOVE

In order to gain more control over our lives, we must guard what our eyes see, what our ears hear, and also pay close attention to the quality of the words that come out of our mouths.

We are the ones who decide who to grant a "VISA" to our personal energy field. It is our right and duty to not cooperate with any potential negativity, in all its forms.

In most cases, when we succumb to its (negative) effects, the results are already known in advance, and are usually not something we want to experience.

We cannot control what other people say or do. We can only control ourselves, to some extent, depending on the current conditions.

We must adapt to self-examination; Practice renewed self-inquiry, so that we can change and improve with ease.

Either we are the ones  "holding on to the steering wheel", or we allow things to happen to us... which is preferable??

How can we help ourselves become better and more efficient on a daily basis?

We can observe the thoughts in our heads; Think before we speak, as we consider the outcome before we're ready to take action.

This is how we can  create a system of self-control - not doing what we "feel like" doing, but rather what we know is right for us.

This internal cleansing helps lessen the "darkness" in our lives, while connecting us to God's infinite, everlasting 

LOVE 💜

SEE YOURSELF AS GOD SEES YOU

For many people a lack of self-esteem, having no "security blanket" to protect them, can impede their progress in life.

It's an important source of intense emotion, a strength that gives us the confidence we need to get ahead.

There are many causes that can lead to low self-esteem, but ultimately the main reason stems from how we see ourselves; Who we believe we are.

Our biggest enemy is the criticizing voice within us, which is brought on by our own negative thinking. 

It seems as if this voice is always looking for every opportunity to attack and condemn us for all our wrong doings. 

This "enemy within" compare us to others by pointing out their performances and abilities, and goes on highlighting and exaggerating our shortcomings.

That is what causes us to undermine our value; We believe that were not good enough.

How we view ourselves comes from our way of thinking, which is often greatly influenced by what others have said or done to us in the past,  and we accepted it as truth.  

How can we feel good if we are constantly criticizing ourselves for everything that we do? 

Maybe we need to keep our attention 

on the other voice that's inside us, the one that supports, trusts and accepts us for who we are. 

We should be happy for being who we are, in spite of our flaws and imperfections.

In order to build our self confidence we must first be able to love and accept ourselves. 

We must be able to recognize all of our accomplishments and victories in life.

We must focus on what's right and good in us; There's no shortage, but we must see it in order to believe it. 

Believe that you have the right to love yourself by accepting your blessed existence; See yourself just as God sees you - a perfect being! 

The highest form of self worth is being able to share the love we have  for ourselves with others. 

ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE

Sometimes all we need to do is ask, and it will be given to us.

So, let's see how it unfolds ... ✨✨✨✨

After many years of helping to empower family, friends, and clients, I've come to believe that with hard work and strong desire, anyone can overcome their challenges, and make a difference in 

their lives.

All that is required of us is to know why we get up in the morning, what is the driving force behind the actions we perform. Children? career?

We should have a compelling enough reason; An essential component to enable us to move forward, to create change and improve our lives.

My greatest satisfaction is helping others get to know themselves better.

Enabling someone to see his challenge in life, from a different "pair of eyes", a new found understanding of reality, is similar to casting a ray of light on a darkened path. 

Suddenly, we have hope again; A belief that things can and will change for the better. 

Once we act from a place of inner peace, (a result of introspection), we gain the ability to access knowledge and insights that would not otherwise be available.

My dream is to reach as many people as possible, and together with you, I'll be able to accomplish my mission.  

My challenge is how to reach and make direct contact with the people who can benefit most from my expertise as a life coach. 

Out of appreciation to you, I'd love to hear your ideas about how to reach more people in order to share with them my thoughts and way of viewing life.

Thank you for taking 

The time to read. 

LOVE YOUR INNER CHILD

We've all been hurt, wounded, at some point in our lives. Invariably, what causes the most "trouble" for us are the issues from our past, from our younger years, that were not properly dealt with.

We don't stay young forever, we grow up real fast and sometimes, under certain conditions, on our own.

The only way we can make it easier on ourselves is when we muster the courage to open ourselves up to be healed, so we can be whole again.

It's a conscious effort we have to make everyday, to forgive and love ourselves.

The things that have been burdening us lay very heavy on our hearts.

If we never pay attention to that sweet, innocent hurt child in us, we can never grew emotionally, we can not change our lives. 

If we continuously punish that little boy/girl subconsciously and or consciously, we will keep creating havoc in all that we do. 

How can we place value on our lives if we never felt loved, shown by example how to love or taught what love really is? 

It's no surprise when a series of situations "appear" on our doorstep that we're unequipped to handle. 

Instead of hating ourselves for all of our past mistakes; things we've said or done, because of what we've  gone through, why not love the child in us and nurture him back to health?

Find a baby picture of yourself. Look at the picture of that sweet, innocent child and ask yourself, Isn't he lovable? Doesn't he deserve to be loved and cared for? 

Of course he is! He deserves to be loved unconditionally and nurtured and cared for, protected and safe. 

It is your job to fulfill the needs of your inner child. Once you can look at that picture and see yourself, you can begin to see the truth. 

Now is the time to start the healing process. You can finally get rid of all those skeletons in your closet and be much more emotionally available to all of those who need and love you! 

Only you can do this work. No one can do it for you, nobody can wipe away all of your pain. You need to do it yourself or with the help of a professional. Non the less, it must be done. Otherwise, you're missing out on all the beauty in life! 

You must get yourself off of the hook. You must do this or you will never truly be free. 

Free yourself from any and all feelings of guilt; It's time to forgive yourself and others. 

Stop the "blame game" just take responsibility. Realize that whatever actions you took in the past, at that time, you've done the best that you could with what you knew and had.

It's ok! Those were times that you weren't fully aware of what you were doing. 

Perhaps, instead of beating yourself up, you need to pat yourself on the back! Look at the odds that were stacked against you! 

You defied the odds! You should be proud of yourself! Even if you've  made mistakes along the way, you're only human you know! 

Who doesn't do things that in retrospect they feel badly about? Cut yourself some slack! 

We were not meant to be perfect. Otherwise, what would be left for us to do here? 

We're suppose to take an imperfect situation and make it as perfect as we possibly can. Not more or less! 

It's time to grow up and take charge and put the past behind you once and for all... NO MORE FACES AND VOICES IN YOUR HEAD! Tell them to leave you alone and be gone!!!! 

It's time to LIVE!

It's time to make a new life for yourself and be that example that wasn't shown to you. 

Be a good friend to the people that want your friendship. Give of yourself emotionally! Take those risks. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you love that little boy/girl.

Be content just being YOU! Then watch your life really change. You will sleep soundly at last. You deserve to be free and loved. Loved for who you are! 

REALIZING MY PURPOSE

It was a typical hot, humid day in the summer of 2011 in Chicago. I travelled there from my home in south Florida to participate in an event held by a famous speaker. 

The speaker was up on stage taking a crowd of 5,000 people, me included, through a meditative process. 

The speaker's powerful voice, along with a soft background music reverberated throughout the halls. 

I was standing there in the dark, listening and taking in the powerful words; The speaker took us back in time, to our past hurtful events in order to be able to release ourselves from the pain we had once experienced. 

People around me were screaming and crying remembering their pain, while I too recalled my own pain. 

It was then when it hit me like a ton of bricks: "There's so much pain in this world ..."

It was as if there were wounded animals all around me, I could feel their sorrow penetrating me to my core level. 

I had already done a lot of work on myself, that's the reason as to why I believed I hadn't been as affected by this process as others were around me.

Suddenly, my body trembled uncontrollably, as the realization of my purpose became clear to me. 

"I want to help people overcome their pain, I want to make a difference."

I knew this is my calling. This is what I've been waiting for. 

I had made it my purpose in life to minimize the pain of others, to the best of my ability, using the professional skills I've acquired along with my personal experience and growth.  

My goal is to connect people back to their essence, to who they really are, so that they can live a more fulfilling and happier lives. 

We can all make the choice to not let our past interfere with the happiness we can create today, no matter what we have been through.

WHAT MATTERS MOST; THE POWER OF LIVING YOUR VALUES

Unfortunately, many people work in jobs that are unfulfilling.

They feel frustrated and angry,for not being able to "release" themselves from their current situation, and  make the necessary changes to feel better. 

Truth be said; No one wants or likes to do what they do not enjoy doing!

The question is; How much control do we have over how we feel? And what can we do in order to shift our  emotions to what we want to experience?

What will happen if instead of staying miserable, you concentrate on what you enjoy doing?

What do you care most about in life? What do you value? Is it love? Is it happiness? 

What do you actively do in your daily interactions in order to feel good about yourself? 

I believe that in order to create change in your outer circumstances, what you are experiencing at the moment, you need to make an internal change, which in turn will allow you to see things from a different angle.

Everything in life depends upon the purpose to which we aspire. If my goal in life is to be rich, to have more money than I know what to do with, it could very well be that no amount, however great, will ever be enough for me.

However, if at every moment, I focus on making myself happy and feeling good inside, as much as I possibly can, most probably I will be able to achieve my goal.

Believe it or not, what matters most is how you choose to feel at any given moment!

WHY ME

Assuming you believe that there is a higher power, God, then, you may also believe that everything that happens to us; All the situations, people, etc., don't just appear out of nowhere...

Perhaps there is a reason as to why we encounter specific events in our lives...  

Instead of feeling like helpless victims, maybe we should be asking ourselves; What is the lesson to be learned? How can I be a better person because of this incident? 

Our life experiences and situations don't happen to us, they happen FOR us. 

In fact, these are opportunities, gifts that are designed especially for us, in order to find out more about ourselves and others, to learn about life and ultimately to improve and better ourselves.

These experiences are what adds the spice to our lives; That's how we gain wisdom and enrichment, making us better equipped to handle any "curveball" coming our way. 

We must remember, even when life is hard for us, we need to appreciate, give thanks and pray; Never forget to recognize all the good that exists in our lives.

Be grateful for all things, even if you don't necessarily understand everything. 

The reason isn't always revealed when we want it, however it all happens for our best and highest good. 

Believe it! 

CREATING A VISION FOR SUCCESS

To create success in life, a person must have a vision.

This vision is not a dream. Dreams come and go.

When a person has a vision, he is awake and fully aware when seeing a vision. He knows that he is not dreaming; He realizes that this is real life.

To bring this "picture of reality" into actuality, one must stick to his vision and never forget about its existence.

If you do not make sure to keep your vision "Alive and Kicking" in your mind, everything else that doesn't receive your full attention, will slowly fade away until nothing is left. 

To produce success, we must turn our vision from imagination to sustainable reality.

How is that done? You must invest maximum effort in thinking and planning how to achieve your vision.

Creating a plan of action is like a map  spread out before us; all we need to do is follow it step by step. 

If you work on a plan without truly believing  in yourself and behaving in accordance with the person you want to become, what are the chances your vision will be manifested? 

The answer is, it will probably be a long shot, if not utterly impossible.

There must be  congruence between your vision and the actions you take in every moment.

Not next week, not next month, and not when everything is settled, but NOW.

Don't be afraid to have a big vision, even farther than you can conceive, just make sure others around you will benefit as well, going beyond your personal gain.

If we look for excuses, or wait for others to do our  "dirty work" for us, it is likely that progress will not be easily achieved.

It's not just another dream, it's YOUR VISION - if you can conceive it, 

YOU can do it!