LOVE YOUR INNER CHILD

We've all been hurt, wounded, at some point in our lives. Invariably, what causes the most "trouble" for us are the issues from our past, from our younger years, that were not properly dealt with.

We don't stay young forever, we grow up real fast and sometimes, under certain conditions, on our own.

The only way we can make it easier on ourselves is when we muster the courage to open ourselves up to be healed, so we can be whole again.

It's a conscious effort we have to make everyday, to forgive and love ourselves.

The things that have been burdening us lay very heavy on our hearts.

If we never pay attention to that sweet, innocent hurt child in us, we can never grew emotionally, we can not change our lives. 

If we continuously punish that little boy/girl subconsciously and or consciously, we will keep creating havoc in all that we do. 

How can we place value on our lives if we never felt loved, shown by example how to love or taught what love really is? 

It's no surprise when a series of situations "appear" on our doorstep that we're unequipped to handle. 

Instead of hating ourselves for all of our past mistakes; things we've said or done, because of what we've  gone through, why not love the child in us and nurture him back to health?

Find a baby picture of yourself. Look at the picture of that sweet, innocent child and ask yourself, Isn't he lovable? Doesn't he deserve to be loved and cared for? 

Of course he is! He deserves to be loved unconditionally and nurtured and cared for, protected and safe. 

It is your job to fulfill the needs of your inner child. Once you can look at that picture and see yourself, you can begin to see the truth. 

Now is the time to start the healing process. You can finally get rid of all those skeletons in your closet and be much more emotionally available to all of those who need and love you! 

Only you can do this work. No one can do it for you, nobody can wipe away all of your pain. You need to do it yourself or with the help of a professional. Non the less, it must be done. Otherwise, you're missing out on all the beauty in life! 

You must get yourself off of the hook. You must do this or you will never truly be free. 

Free yourself from any and all feelings of guilt; It's time to forgive yourself and others. 

Stop the "blame game" just take responsibility. Realize that whatever actions you took in the past, at that time, you've done the best that you could with what you knew and had.

It's ok! Those were times that you weren't fully aware of what you were doing. 

Perhaps, instead of beating yourself up, you need to pat yourself on the back! Look at the odds that were stacked against you! 

You defied the odds! You should be proud of yourself! Even if you've  made mistakes along the way, you're only human you know! 

Who doesn't do things that in retrospect they feel badly about? Cut yourself some slack! 

We were not meant to be perfect. Otherwise, what would be left for us to do here? 

We're suppose to take an imperfect situation and make it as perfect as we possibly can. Not more or less! 

It's time to grow up and take charge and put the past behind you once and for all... NO MORE FACES AND VOICES IN YOUR HEAD! Tell them to leave you alone and be gone!!!! 

It's time to LIVE!

It's time to make a new life for yourself and be that example that wasn't shown to you. 

Be a good friend to the people that want your friendship. Give of yourself emotionally! Take those risks. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you love that little boy/girl.

Be content just being YOU! Then watch your life really change. You will sleep soundly at last. You deserve to be free and loved. Loved for who you are! 

REALIZING MY PURPOSE

It was a typical hot, humid day in the summer of 2011 in Chicago. I travelled there from my home in south Florida to participate in an event held by a famous speaker. 

The speaker was up on stage taking a crowd of 5,000 people, me included, through a meditative process. 

The speaker's powerful voice, along with a soft background music reverberated throughout the halls. 

I was standing there in the dark, listening and taking in the powerful words; The speaker took us back in time, to our past hurtful events in order to be able to release ourselves from the pain we had once experienced. 

People around me were screaming and crying remembering their pain, while I too recalled my own pain. 

It was then when it hit me like a ton of bricks: "There's so much pain in this world ..."

It was as if there were wounded animals all around me, I could feel their sorrow penetrating me to my core level. 

I had already done a lot of work on myself, that's the reason as to why I believed I hadn't been as affected by this process as others were around me.

Suddenly, my body trembled uncontrollably, as the realization of my purpose became clear to me. 

"I want to help people overcome their pain, I want to make a difference."

I knew this is my calling. This is what I've been waiting for. 

I had made it my purpose in life to minimize the pain of others, to the best of my ability, using the professional skills I've acquired along with my personal experience and growth.  

My goal is to connect people back to their essence, to who they really are, so that they can live a more fulfilling and happier lives. 

We can all make the choice to not let our past interfere with the happiness we can create today, no matter what we have been through.

WHAT MATTERS MOST; THE POWER OF LIVING YOUR VALUES

Unfortunately, many people work in jobs that are unfulfilling.

They feel frustrated and angry,for not being able to "release" themselves from their current situation, and  make the necessary changes to feel better. 

Truth be said; No one wants or likes to do what they do not enjoy doing!

The question is; How much control do we have over how we feel? And what can we do in order to shift our  emotions to what we want to experience?

What will happen if instead of staying miserable, you concentrate on what you enjoy doing?

What do you care most about in life? What do you value? Is it love? Is it happiness? 

What do you actively do in your daily interactions in order to feel good about yourself? 

I believe that in order to create change in your outer circumstances, what you are experiencing at the moment, you need to make an internal change, which in turn will allow you to see things from a different angle.

Everything in life depends upon the purpose to which we aspire. If my goal in life is to be rich, to have more money than I know what to do with, it could very well be that no amount, however great, will ever be enough for me.

However, if at every moment, I focus on making myself happy and feeling good inside, as much as I possibly can, most probably I will be able to achieve my goal.

Believe it or not, what matters most is how you choose to feel at any given moment!

WHY ME

Assuming you believe that there is a higher power, God, then, you may also believe that everything that happens to us; All the situations, people, etc., don't just appear out of nowhere...

Perhaps there is a reason as to why we encounter specific events in our lives...  

Instead of feeling like helpless victims, maybe we should be asking ourselves; What is the lesson to be learned? How can I be a better person because of this incident? 

Our life experiences and situations don't happen to us, they happen FOR us. 

In fact, these are opportunities, gifts that are designed especially for us, in order to find out more about ourselves and others, to learn about life and ultimately to improve and better ourselves.

These experiences are what adds the spice to our lives; That's how we gain wisdom and enrichment, making us better equipped to handle any "curveball" coming our way. 

We must remember, even when life is hard for us, we need to appreciate, give thanks and pray; Never forget to recognize all the good that exists in our lives.

Be grateful for all things, even if you don't necessarily understand everything. 

The reason isn't always revealed when we want it, however it all happens for our best and highest good. 

Believe it! 

CREATING A VISION FOR SUCCESS

To create success in life, a person must have a vision.

This vision is not a dream. Dreams come and go.

When a person has a vision, he is awake and fully aware when seeing a vision. He knows that he is not dreaming; He realizes that this is real life.

To bring this "picture of reality" into actuality, one must stick to his vision and never forget about its existence.

If you do not make sure to keep your vision "Alive and Kicking" in your mind, everything else that doesn't receive your full attention, will slowly fade away until nothing is left. 

To produce success, we must turn our vision from imagination to sustainable reality.

How is that done? You must invest maximum effort in thinking and planning how to achieve your vision.

Creating a plan of action is like a map  spread out before us; all we need to do is follow it step by step. 

If you work on a plan without truly believing  in yourself and behaving in accordance with the person you want to become, what are the chances your vision will be manifested? 

The answer is, it will probably be a long shot, if not utterly impossible.

There must be  congruence between your vision and the actions you take in every moment.

Not next week, not next month, and not when everything is settled, but NOW.

Don't be afraid to have a big vision, even farther than you can conceive, just make sure others around you will benefit as well, going beyond your personal gain.

If we look for excuses, or wait for others to do our  "dirty work" for us, it is likely that progress will not be easily achieved.

It's not just another dream, it's YOUR VISION - if you can conceive it, 

YOU can do it!

THE COMPASSIONATE INSTINCT

Our natural instinct is to care for others; There is no better feeling than knowing we have uplifted a spirit or helped someone in need.

Every gesture of friendship and compassion is in no way a trivial act. On the contrary, it is the lifeblood of a prosperous and successful culture. 

We must be proactive, take the initiative and work on creating positive relationships with the people around us, rather than wait for them to make the first move.

As a result of being a part of human society, we have a strong tendency to connect to our selfish side: From an early age, we have learned behaviors that harm our natural affinity for cooperation.

We were educated to focus on achievement, which in turn instilled in us the idea that success means "I'm doing better than others."

But is that the real meaning of success, thinking that we're better than others? 

Is that what truly makes us happy?

What if we all treated one another as we would like for them to care for us? 

We must be attentive  to our behavior with family members and our community; They are an integral part of who we are. 

Our success in all walks of life greatly depends upon the support resources available to us - family, friends, or colleagues.

It is in our best interest to establish a loving and caring connection with others, as it directly effects our own progress - we need them just as much as they need us.

That is the reason why it is of utmost importance we surround ourselves with supportive people who believe in us, in order to increase our chances to blossom and bloom in everything we do.

I WANT YOU TO WANT ME

Sometimes our longing for love may cause a lack of response from our partners. They shut down in frustration, blaming themselves for not being able to make us happy. 

At times, when we attempt to talk about it, it only makes the challenge more difficult. 

We may feel that we're not receiving the love and care that we once had, and begin questioning if we made the right choice in our partner. 

When we feel that were not "important enough", we may begin to question our self worth and or become angry at our partners for not appreciating us.

These feelings and thoughts begin to fester within us and the pain becomes unbearable. The more time goes by without reaching a resolve, the angrier and more defeated we become. 

Our partners in turn, do not understand why we are so sad ..

We may begin to consider separation or even divorce ... but is it the best solution? 

Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and say: I've done everything I can to improve my relationship? 

Instead of allowing these feelings to destroy everything we've built so far, why not think about what WE can ACTIVELY do in order to change our situation?

What if instead of keeping myself busy thinking about how unhappy I am because my needs are not being met, I will focus first on sorting out the problem and only then decide whether to divorce or not?

What will happen if I put myself a goal to become my partners lover instead of just the person I'm sharing a home with?

What if we choose to make LOVING the biggest part of our daily lives?

What if I'll focus on what I really want, will I discover parts about myself that I wasn't aware existed?  

Decide right now to stop complaining, and begin to think creatively what can you ADD to the relationship in order to make it better. 

There's a lot more we can do if only we allow ourselves to think outside the

box ...

STUCK IN PLACE

When we feel "stuck", it could very well be because we haven’t yet let go of the past. 

We all have experiences we'd rather not recall, events that may have caused us much pain and suffering. 

Most often, because we haven't done the inner work that's necessary to do, in order to forgive ourselves and others, we continue to manufacture  more of the same pain we once experienced.

Many years may have gone by, and the people we blame for inflicting the pain upon us may no longer be in our lives, yet we still choose consciously or unconsciously, to keep these negative memories "alive" in our minds.

We end up staying in a destructive loop of either feeling depressed and miserable or angry and hateful.

Invariably, we don't stop and ask ourselves, why am I doing this? Is this the way I want to live my life?

If you find yourself in such condition, stop for a moment and ask yourself: is this helping me to progress towards my goals in life or is it causing me to stay stuck in place? 

Who would you be if you finally rid yourself of all the negative memories from your past? 

Would you be a happier person? Would you be more productive? 

Would the people around you enjoy you more? 

If the answer to one or more of these questions is yes, maybe it's time to reconsider how you'd rather spend your energy... 

Perhaps, you'll decide that this is NOT who you choose to be, this is not conducive to your overall  health and well being. 

Maybe you'll choose not to stay in agony because there's so much more to live 

for ... 

Something to think about.. 

EVERYDAY IN EVERY WAY I'M GETTING BETTER AND BETTER AND BETTER

Say this mantra everyday, using your feelings and emotions, believing what you are saying is already manifesting in your life.

I am creating and manifesting my desires. 

My goals are becoming my new reality.

My intention is to take action.

I'm focused on my desires.

I'm one with the universe. 

I manifest easily and effortlessly. 

I find it easy to focus and concentrate.

My mind is clear and focused.

I'm grateful for my success. 

I'm happy and grateful to be where I'm in my life now.

I am open to new ideas and adapt new beliefs that align with my desires. 

I'm in peace.

Everyday in every way I'm getting better and better and better ~

NOTHING CAN BRING YOU PEACE BUT YOURSELF

"It’s Hard to Fly When Something is Weighing You Down"

We must never let the sadness of our past and the fears of our future ruin the happiness of our present. 

Talking about our problems is our biggest addiction. We must break the habit and begin a discussion about our joys. 

When we invest just a bit of thought, we discover that there are an abundance of reasons for us to be happy. 

The moment we change what things mean to us, we create a lifelong transformation in our experience. 

True happiness and exhilaration doesn't require of us to do any "dare devil" acts. It comes naturally from within, if we only allow it. 

Nothing can bring you peace and happiness unless you create it  yourself - become comfortable expressing who you are at your core level - a loving, happy person. 

THINK HIGHLY OF YOURSELF

"Think highly of yourself, because the world takes you at your own estimate."

No one knows you better than you know  yourself. If you appear confident about something, others will think the same.

Show some faith in yourself and others will follow. 

The difference between who you are and who you aspire to be lays in what you're willing to do about it. 

Use your will power and self-empowerment to propel yourself forward. 

True success lies in your effort and determination - not by using the weaknesses of others in order to overpower them. 

There's no need for competition in order to create a better year, and a more fulfilling life for ourselves and those around us. 

May we all focus on LOVE and not hatred; have more certainty and less worry; stay away from complications and live more simply; expect less and do more for others; give a lot and need much less; and replace our sorrows with countless smiles and happiness. 

PEACE LOVE AND HAPPINESS

A prayer for peace, love, and happiness. 

Thank you God for giving me life, for giving me another opportunity to create happiness for myself and others. Thank you for all the blessings, abundance, and good fortune you've given me. 

I ask you God, to please help me  overcome the barriers of my own creation and to draw strength from the experiences I have accumulated so far. 

Please give me the strength to believe in myself, to believe I am capable of making the difference in my life as well as in the lives of those around me. 

Please give me the power to want and accommodate change; To realize and internalize that every obstacle is actually a challenge in disguise, designed especially for me. 

Please remind me, that whenever I'm going through difficult times, it's actually good for me: it's there not by chance, but rather as a way to bring me to the next junction in my life: stronger and more capable than before.  

Please help me remember that the most important thing is how I interpret the occurrences in my life, and always seek and find the goodness in everything.  

Please help me, despite the frustration that I experience from time to time, to keep the feelings of joy and enthusiasm in my heart. 

Finally dear God, please keep me and all those I care for and love dearly, safe and protected. Help me care and love not only for myself, but others as well. 

Amen.

RELAX AND RECHARGE

It is vital to our overall well being to learn how to control stress and tension, in order to restore balance and bring back joy in our life. 

Whenever you feel you're about to "lose it", remind yourself that thoughts and emotions come and go, and that you can CHOOSE what you want to think and feel at any given moment. 

Follow along the lines below: 

Take three breaths one after the other in synchronization, breathe from your nose and out of your mouth. 

Set the intention as you are breathing, that with each breath you become more and more relaxed and comfortable. 

Keep breathing until you feel more heart centered and more into the oneness of us all. 

Think good thoughts, think about all the great possibilities that are still awaiting for you in the future...

Know that you are good enough! Believe that you are worthy and deserving to live a happy and fulfilled life! 

You are blessed beyond measure, and you know it ...

Start acting and speaking with conviction and full intention to live a dreamy life, a life of your own creation! 

Believe that it's the absolute truth! Because it is! 

These words are meant for you to take to heart, to breathe in and to implement in your every day life.