THE COMPASSIONATE INSTINCT

Our natural instinct is to care for others; There is no better feeling than knowing we have uplifted a spirit or helped someone in need.

Every gesture of friendship and compassion is in no way a trivial act. On the contrary, it is the lifeblood of a prosperous and successful culture. 

We must be proactive, take the initiative and work on creating positive relationships with the people around us, rather than wait for them to make the first move.

As a result of being a part of human society, we have a strong tendency to connect to our selfish side: From an early age, we have learned behaviors that harm our natural affinity for cooperation.

We were educated to focus on achievement, which in turn instilled in us the idea that success means "I'm doing better than others."

But is that the real meaning of success, thinking that we're better than others? 

Is that what truly makes us happy?

What if we all treated one another as we would like for them to care for us? 

We must be attentive  to our behavior with family members and our community; They are an integral part of who we are. 

Our success in all walks of life greatly depends upon the support resources available to us - family, friends, or colleagues.

It is in our best interest to establish a loving and caring connection with others, as it directly effects our own progress - we need them just as much as they need us.

That is the reason why it is of utmost importance we surround ourselves with supportive people who believe in us, in order to increase our chances to blossom and bloom in everything we do.

I WANT YOU TO WANT ME

Sometimes our longing for love may cause a lack of response from our partners. They shut down in frustration, blaming themselves for not being able to make us happy. 

At times, when we attempt to talk about it, it only makes the challenge more difficult. 

We may feel that we're not receiving the love and care that we once had, and begin questioning if we made the right choice in our partner. 

When we feel that were not "important enough", we may begin to question our self worth and or become angry at our partners for not appreciating us.

These feelings and thoughts begin to fester within us and the pain becomes unbearable. The more time goes by without reaching a resolve, the angrier and more defeated we become. 

Our partners in turn, do not understand why we are so sad ..

We may begin to consider separation or even divorce ... but is it the best solution? 

Can we look at ourselves in the mirror and say: I've done everything I can to improve my relationship? 

Instead of allowing these feelings to destroy everything we've built so far, why not think about what WE can ACTIVELY do in order to change our situation?

What if instead of keeping myself busy thinking about how unhappy I am because my needs are not being met, I will focus first on sorting out the problem and only then decide whether to divorce or not?

What will happen if I put myself a goal to become my partners lover instead of just the person I'm sharing a home with?

What if we choose to make LOVING the biggest part of our daily lives?

What if I'll focus on what I really want, will I discover parts about myself that I wasn't aware existed?  

Decide right now to stop complaining, and begin to think creatively what can you ADD to the relationship in order to make it better. 

There's a lot more we can do if only we allow ourselves to think outside the

box ...

STUCK IN PLACE

When we feel "stuck", it could very well be because we haven’t yet let go of the past. 

We all have experiences we'd rather not recall, events that may have caused us much pain and suffering. 

Most often, because we haven't done the inner work that's necessary to do, in order to forgive ourselves and others, we continue to manufacture  more of the same pain we once experienced.

Many years may have gone by, and the people we blame for inflicting the pain upon us may no longer be in our lives, yet we still choose consciously or unconsciously, to keep these negative memories "alive" in our minds.

We end up staying in a destructive loop of either feeling depressed and miserable or angry and hateful.

Invariably, we don't stop and ask ourselves, why am I doing this? Is this the way I want to live my life?

If you find yourself in such condition, stop for a moment and ask yourself: is this helping me to progress towards my goals in life or is it causing me to stay stuck in place? 

Who would you be if you finally rid yourself of all the negative memories from your past? 

Would you be a happier person? Would you be more productive? 

Would the people around you enjoy you more? 

If the answer to one or more of these questions is yes, maybe it's time to reconsider how you'd rather spend your energy... 

Perhaps, you'll decide that this is NOT who you choose to be, this is not conducive to your overall  health and well being. 

Maybe you'll choose not to stay in agony because there's so much more to live 

for ... 

Something to think about.. 

EVERYDAY IN EVERY WAY I'M GETTING BETTER AND BETTER AND BETTER

Say this mantra everyday, using your feelings and emotions, believing what you are saying is already manifesting in your life.

I am creating and manifesting my desires. 

My goals are becoming my new reality.

My intention is to take action.

I'm focused on my desires.

I'm one with the universe. 

I manifest easily and effortlessly. 

I find it easy to focus and concentrate.

My mind is clear and focused.

I'm grateful for my success. 

I'm happy and grateful to be where I'm in my life now.

I am open to new ideas and adapt new beliefs that align with my desires. 

I'm in peace.

Everyday in every way I'm getting better and better and better ~

NOTHING CAN BRING YOU PEACE BUT YOURSELF

"It’s Hard to Fly When Something is Weighing You Down"

We must never let the sadness of our past and the fears of our future ruin the happiness of our present. 

Talking about our problems is our biggest addiction. We must break the habit and begin a discussion about our joys. 

When we invest just a bit of thought, we discover that there are an abundance of reasons for us to be happy. 

The moment we change what things mean to us, we create a lifelong transformation in our experience. 

True happiness and exhilaration doesn't require of us to do any "dare devil" acts. It comes naturally from within, if we only allow it. 

Nothing can bring you peace and happiness unless you create it  yourself - become comfortable expressing who you are at your core level - a loving, happy person. 

THINK HIGHLY OF YOURSELF

"Think highly of yourself, because the world takes you at your own estimate."

No one knows you better than you know  yourself. If you appear confident about something, others will think the same.

Show some faith in yourself and others will follow. 

The difference between who you are and who you aspire to be lays in what you're willing to do about it. 

Use your will power and self-empowerment to propel yourself forward. 

True success lies in your effort and determination - not by using the weaknesses of others in order to overpower them. 

There's no need for competition in order to create a better year, and a more fulfilling life for ourselves and those around us. 

May we all focus on LOVE and not hatred; have more certainty and less worry; stay away from complications and live more simply; expect less and do more for others; give a lot and need much less; and replace our sorrows with countless smiles and happiness. 

PEACE LOVE AND HAPPINESS

A prayer for peace, love, and happiness. 

Thank you God for giving me life, for giving me another opportunity to create happiness for myself and others. Thank you for all the blessings, abundance, and good fortune you've given me. 

I ask you God, to please help me  overcome the barriers of my own creation and to draw strength from the experiences I have accumulated so far. 

Please give me the strength to believe in myself, to believe I am capable of making the difference in my life as well as in the lives of those around me. 

Please give me the power to want and accommodate change; To realize and internalize that every obstacle is actually a challenge in disguise, designed especially for me. 

Please remind me, that whenever I'm going through difficult times, it's actually good for me: it's there not by chance, but rather as a way to bring me to the next junction in my life: stronger and more capable than before.  

Please help me remember that the most important thing is how I interpret the occurrences in my life, and always seek and find the goodness in everything.  

Please help me, despite the frustration that I experience from time to time, to keep the feelings of joy and enthusiasm in my heart. 

Finally dear God, please keep me and all those I care for and love dearly, safe and protected. Help me care and love not only for myself, but others as well. 

Amen.

RELAX AND RECHARGE

It is vital to our overall well being to learn how to control stress and tension, in order to restore balance and bring back joy in our life. 

Whenever you feel you're about to "lose it", remind yourself that thoughts and emotions come and go, and that you can CHOOSE what you want to think and feel at any given moment. 

Follow along the lines below: 

Take three breaths one after the other in synchronization, breathe from your nose and out of your mouth. 

Set the intention as you are breathing, that with each breath you become more and more relaxed and comfortable. 

Keep breathing until you feel more heart centered and more into the oneness of us all. 

Think good thoughts, think about all the great possibilities that are still awaiting for you in the future...

Know that you are good enough! Believe that you are worthy and deserving to live a happy and fulfilled life! 

You are blessed beyond measure, and you know it ...

Start acting and speaking with conviction and full intention to live a dreamy life, a life of your own creation! 

Believe that it's the absolute truth! Because it is! 

These words are meant for you to take to heart, to breathe in and to implement in your every day life.

KNOW THYSELF

Would you like to heighten or increase your self awareness? 

How would it feel to have a better perception of yourself and the world around you? 

It won't cost more than a few minutes of your time.

Here's an exercise you can do in order to get to know yourself a little better...

In the evening, give yourself a few minutes, to think back and reflect upon your day. 

Take out a pen and a sheet of paper and divide the paper into two columns: the good occurrences that you had throughout the day, and the less desirable ones. 

Pick one to three incidents/experiences/feelings that you like to work on or resolve, and think about what you could have done (something that was in your control) that would possibly influence or change the situation to a more favorable outcome.

For example: you had a terrible fight with your spouse right before you left for work. Things got out of hand, you lost control and insulted your wife/mate. In retrospect, you wish you hadn't said or done that.

The purpose of this exercise is not to "turn back time", unfortunately we don't have the ability to do that.

What's done is done. 

We cannot undue the past, even if it happened a split second ago..

However, what we will gain, through introspection, is a wealth of knowledge about our environment, but mainly about ourselves.

Further more, this can also provide the insight as to whether or not we have hurt someone.

More importantly, it will give us the opportunity to remedy or correct things. 

We could all use a bit of fine tuning or "tweaking", now and then. We can always improve ourselves and become better bosses, parents, spouses, friends, etc.

You'll be the judge, and decide if it's worth looking into.

CREATING MY LIFE PURPOSE

How well do you know yourself and what do you truly want to achieve in life? 

Go on a journey within yourself and discover what you're passionate about, what do value about life and what is it that matters to you most. 

Ask yourself: what can I do to create meaning in my life? 

When you ask the answers come. 

Don't let life "happen to you", instead, identify your goals and create a specific, realistic plan that you know you'll be able to carry through. 

Design your optimal life where you can experience happiness, peace and inner fulfillment. 

The responsibility to "fill in the blanks" between the moment you were born till the moment you pass, is solely up to you.

You are the one who has to create content to your life.

Live everyday fully as if it was your last. Know that you can make a difference in your life as well as in the lives of others.

RAISE YOUR VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCY

All of life is energy vibrating in different frequencies. "Raise your vibrational frequency."

We live in energetic fields that hold wide-ranging vibrations. 

Everything around us is rapidly moving energy - nothing stays still. 

When a molecule - a unit of energy - is moving faster, the higher and lighter vibration it holds. Conversely, the slower it is, the heavier and denser the frequency becomes. 

What seems solid is actually in a denser frequency, because it's moving in a slower rate which makes it appear solid. 

Everything we're able to witness in this physical world, seems like solid objects. 

In reality, what we cannot see is the movement in these objects - this energy that never ceases to stay still.

The same goes for the human body - we are also made of molecules that hold varied energetic frequencies. 

Our state of mind -consciousness - which is responsible for how we FEEL at any given time, determines how fast or slow the energy moves in our bodies. 

Why is it important to fully understand the above? 

Our emotional world plays a critical part in our everyday lives. 

Anger, hate, resentment, sadness etc, hold low vibrational energy which can be detrimental to our very existence. 

That is why it's critical that we pay attention to our level of awareness and make sure to raise our frequency to a higher level in order to FEEL better. 

How do we do it? 

By focusing our energy on LOVE! By concentrating on all the positives in our lives and constantly reinforcing them.

Why do this? 

Because the quality of our lives is not contingent on how we feel, but more importantly on making a conscious effort choosing to be ok, in spite of the challenges put before us. 

CONSCIOUS PRESENCE

During the course of our lives, many of us tend to "nest:" build a family, make friends, create a business and or develop a career. We make various choices, and keep setting goals in order to improve our lives and get ahead. 

Most of the time, we believe that we're doing our best, for the betterment of ourselves as well as for others.

"Life's race" is a continual movement  - we're constantly doing something.

The problem arises not in the doing but in the execution; The way in which we operate.

There are times we find ourselves doing things merely to "clock in". It's not so nice to admit, but under some conditions, we go through the motions just to feel good about ourselves; I helped my friend move, I was there for my colleague from work in her time of need - yeah me!! I've done my good deed for the day!

Then we do not understand why we still end up feeling emptiness after all that we have done! We transcended above our selfish nature, reached out, and have been there for others, even when it required much effort or didn't necessarily fit in our schedule.

So we ask ourselves: why am I not getting what is "due to me"? I'm a good person! 

The thing is, in life, it's not the action that makes the difference, but rather it's our consciousness: the place from which we function.

When we take action, whether it may be a phone conversation with a friend or a board meeting, are we really there?

Are we present, in mind, in thought, with the intention to infuse positive energy and influence for the good, or are we there in our physical 

body only?

Are we thinking about the other, about what he/she really needs or do we believe we know according to our standards?

When we approach everything from the right consciousness, we can create all kinds of magic. All we need to do is be fully present, in good faith, and with a sincere desire to be there for others.

Then everything will look and feel different and we'll be able to experience the elation we so long for. 

UNCOVER YOUR HIDDEN POTENTIAL

If you're looking for a way to make the world a better place, begin by improving yourself. 

What if you had the ability to be the best that you can be? 

Would you upgrade yourself to be the ultimate you? 

We all possess traits that we're not particularly fond of; think about the darker side within you, and how you can minimize it. 

Identifying these traits is the first step towards change and reaching your maximum potency. 

There is no better day than today, to begin improving yourself and developing the strengths that can make a difference in your life. 

The beauty is that you can use your talents not only to bring benefit and improvement to yourself. 

You'll be able to help others develop their own strengths to deal with their weaknesses so they too can advance and reach their full potential. 

Imagine what would that feel like ... Congratulations! YOU made a difference in the world! 

THE FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS

Do you wish to feel good, be happy, and fulfilled? Do you want to find your purpose and follow it through?

If your answer is yes, then you must assume control over your emotional world! 

You cannot expect to have order in your life as long as there's no peace in your heart. 

What do you focus on? What do you invest your energy in?

If you spend most of your time in thinking disempowering thoughts (I'm such a failure, how could I have done that, it's all because of them, I'm a lost cause, etc), which lead you to feel crappy, guess what? As you may presume, you won't get very far in life! 

Your head and heart are at your disposal - leverage their power to work for you, not against you. 

Contrary to what you may believe, your thoughts and feelings  can be shifted in an instant! You just need to replace the thought to a more favorable one. 

You can choose what your heart should feel! 

When a person is successful in replacing anger and rage with kindness, compassion and grace, then comes healing. 

The formula to experiencing happiness, is actively choosing to  fill our hearts and minds with love and care for ourselves, and then extending this loving energy outwardly to the world around us.