PAIN IS A PART OF LIFE, SUFFERING IS AN OPTION

Pain is designed to purify and make us humble; To be genuine toward ourselves and others. 

It enables us to gain a better understanding of the other's agony. 

It's there to make it easier for us to remove our masks, and uncover our real selves - it's okay to hurt.

Pain can also serve as an indicator to what needs our attention, so we can come to a resolution and move on.

It is important for us to experience all range of feelings - they all serve a purpose. 

However, staying in hate, resentment, anger or any other kind of negativity,  can adversely affect us long term, and can even be dangerous to our physical and mental health. 

Therefore, happiness is a feeling we must strive to experience as much as we can. 

True happiness comes when we become comfortable expressing who we are at our core level - loving and giving souls. 

 

Those who learn to turn darkness into light, and bitterness into sweetness are entitled to be in heaven.

By the way, heaven, is not somewhere up in the skies or, in the unseen future...It is right here, right now, moment to moment...

 

SAY IT WITH A SMILE :-)

Your tone of voice is a key determinant in how others perceive you - it is just as important, if not more than the actual words you use! 

Friendliness can be projected through the words used and the emphasis should be on using courteous, thoughtful, and caring language when engaging with other.

A "friendly" voice lets people know that they can trust, rely upon, and be reassured by you.

Consider how you can introduce a sense of a smile into your voice without necessarily having to smile.

Always keep a smile on your face - It's a wonderful add-on to your friendly tone.

THE POWER OF REPENTANCE

You can change everything with the power of repentance.

So what is repentance?

It's not about how often we go to our place of worship, how many good deeds we do or how religious we are, but rather it is a spiritual-psychological process.

Repentance is the ability to look back on what was, to look at the pain and say to myself: 'That's not me, it does not belong to me any more ... "

God/universe gives us the power of blessing, so we can insert it into all the painful places within us.

Even if we did terrible things, it does not mean that they cannot be forgiven - no bad deed, no matter how awful it had been, can stand before the power of repentance.  

We are able to forgive ourselves when we realize we had made a mistake from a place of pain, darkness and confusion - because we were not balanced.

When we return to a balanced state, we can recognize but not identify with the bad feeling.

So why repent?

Because as long as I hold on to the pain instead of understanding why I made the mistake, and how can I make sure I will not repeat it, I will continue to suffer.

I make sure not to duplicate that same occurrence and continue forward with my life. 

I consciously choose not to focus on the bad, and instead I focus on what makes me feel good.

Repentance gives us the strength to transcend beyond the pain and move forward without looking back.

FORGIVENESS AND THE FREEDOM OF LETTING GO

How do I bring myself to a place where I can forgive and I'm happy with that?

1) When I am aware that my health depends on my ability to release what is not useful to me.

 

2) When it is important for me to create loving and successful relationships, I allow myself to transcend beyond when necessary.

 

3) When I give myself the opportunity to be vulnerable I am able to grow.

 

4) when I realize that I cannot make anyone  forgive. But I can take responsibility for what depends on me, and be the leader of my life.

 

5) When I realize that there are different possibilities and angles  from which I can view reality. 

I can now create a reality that allows me to live  happy and healthy, with love, satisfaction and personal fulfillment, for myself and everyone around me.

FORGIVENESS IS THE TRUE MEANING OF  LIBERATION. 

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR

Humor me if you will, just for a moment...

I believe, that there isn't "right" or "wrong". There's only perception. I don't believe that anything that we are aware of is random.

I do believe that there are certain things and ideas which are beyond our perception, outside our understanding, and what we may perceive as being logical.

Often times we'll be experiencing some"technical difficulties" in conceptualizing certain beliefs, or judgments that are not founded on proof, or certainty...

But, if you give it a try, with an open mind, a mind that isn't searching for ways to rebuttal, but rather consider a different point of view, an alternative approach, you will see "things" a bit differently... 

Please don't allow the title to scare you away;

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR...

We are compelled to believe that there's more to us than merely the images we see reflecting back at us from the mirror. There has to be "something" greater dwelling within. The energy, the diverse emotions we feel, our racing thoughts - they're all a part of what we commonly refer to as our soul.

It is our ever expanding and eternal higher self. 

We are not composed of just our bodies. 

There's a specific purpose for each of us being here on earth. It doesn't seem logical that we only came here for the reason of simply existing. Waking up day after day, going to work, raising our children and doing countless mindless tasks.

It's really all about our souls.

Each soul chose to come forth and experience circumstances throughout its life time span, which would provide it (our soul) with the opportunities to be connected to the light as opposed to the darkness, with each choice that we make. These manifestations of circumstance didn't just happen to "show up", but rather so we can take advantage of the position we're in and make as many positive, well intentioned choices.

These choices would potentially turn each "darkened corner" appearing in our lives into a lighted one. Simply meaning, with the correct mindset, we'll feel obliged to always come from a place of love and compassion: to love the other as we do ourselves. This of course, takes maturity, awareness and a deeper understanding of how things work. 

Once we will fully comprehend that is our purpose; to constantly grow, evolve, and upgrade ourselves to better human beings, we'll allow the modification to come about more smoothly. And than, we will become different in some way. 

By modifying ourselves, we'll be able to bring about a better version of ourselves and a tremendous benefit, not only in our own lives, but also to the lives of those around us.

We need not lose our identity or essence in order to become more refined. Ultimately, we'll become just like a polished diamond, shining brightly from within, with each act of love that we'll be participating in. 

Because we are all ONE. 

Each of us represents a Godly sparkle, a tiny piece of the whole. A part of the wonderful, and wondrous world we're all sharing together as ONE.. — 

HOW TO FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY

HOW TO TAKE THE NEGATIVE, from NEGATIVE THINKING? 

If you find yourself immersed in negativity, know that you have the power to change it - pull out the "sting" and stop the burn! 

You may think you are an innocent bystander, allowing yourself to sink deeper into desperation, but you are not!

You don't have to think those thoughts, as we said before, they are just thoughts - these thoughts hold a low vibrational frequency which causes us nothing but harm.

We don't function well when we don't feel well.

Therefore, it is our responsibility for own good, as well as for those around us, to change how we feel.

Here is a three step process you can do as soon as you catch yourself feeling any kind of negativity:

1 - change your body positioning - if you are lying down, get up and walk, jump, sit, do whatever is necessary to change your current physical state.

2 - change your internal dialogue - what are you saying to yourself?

If you are beating yourself up for failing or feeling like a victim because someone had a bad day and poured their negativity on you, change the words - "my husband had a bad day .. His words are not directed at me... It is just his way of blowing off steam..."

3 - change your focus - what are you concentrating on? Are you feeling badly about yourself? Are you focused on your problem?

What will happen if instead, you begin searching for a solution to your problem?

Use this tool to change your state of mind. After all, your number one job is to feel good, isn't that so?

HOW TO SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP

Let's face it, relationships are not easy - in order to have a successful marriage or partnership, you must realize that it doesn't just happen on its own! 

You must be willing to invest time and effort in order to create and maintain a healthy union  where you can share love, respect, and common interests. 

We are complex beings as it is - we each come come with "baggage" and our own unique story - it can be challenging for two different people, trying to coexist in one home.  

Let's get things straight:

for a long lasting partnership you don't have to be identical and he or she doesn't have to be perfect - hopefully you have realized by now, there is no such thing as a perfect mate.

Right from the very beginning, you need to know who you are, and in the same token, what is important to you - you have to be able to be honest with yourself and your partner - otherwise, sooner or later, trouble will arise. 

You must take time to really get to know who your partner is - the more information you gather, the more closeness you will be able to create. 

The more you know, the more you'll reduce the chances for misunderstanding and unnecessary pain. 

If you are experiencing "technical difficulties" in your marriage, do not wait - often times when too much time has lapsed, the relationship's foundation may be compromised.  

Reach out and seek for help BEFORE it's too LATE!

Do not wait until the love has gone out the window, and another relationship has failed.

For a relationship to truly work, it takes an incredible amount of love and dedication by both partners for success to be achieved, but it is very possible - you just need to want it badly enough! 

Contact me today and allow me to help you learn how to speak your "partner's language", in order to create the loving and supportive relationship you desire. 

You can do it - I can help! 

FORGIVENESS IS FOR YOU

Real forgiveness is our innate ability to feel safe and free to be who we truly are.

One of the most important components of life, is the ability to forgive ourselves and others - in order to be at peace within, we need to allow it to penetrate our core. 

The inability to forgive is like inviting negative energy in, which does not allow us to live life fully - it affects every aspect of our lives. 

We must realize that holding on to any negative energy created by our past thoughts, feelings, and experiences, is keeping us imprisoned in the "cells of our mind".

Negativity hinders our efforts to be successful in life - it must be acknowledged and released. 

The idea of making peace within our soul is not just mind talk; It's bigger than that - it's a way of being ok with all the experiences, contradictions, and different expressions of one's life story.

Self-forgiveness is finally allowing yourself to remove the "big rock" sitting on your chest and breathing freely after holding your breath for too long. 

Why do I need to let go?

Think about it: two wrongs don't make a right! 

Forgiving is not about forgetting, it's about not letting a wrong hold you back!

In the end we don't have to answer for what others do to us - only for what we do to them. 

I FEEL GOOD BECAUSE I AM HAPPY

It is our own filtration method - our personal belief system - which leads to judgment towards ourselves and others. 

It's time to ask if what we believe, is actually TRUE - or, are we being enslaved by the meanings we choose to attach to the events, and experiences occurring in our lives. 

We must keep in mind, that WE are the ones who are responsible for our own quality of life! 

Today, I reached a decision; there isn't any more room in my life for negative, self defeating talk, feelings or behavior.

What IS important, is that I become fully aware that I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, and so are YOU, and YOU.....

HOW TO FORGIVE AND FORGET

Ask god to help you with the ability to forgive yourself - it will deepen and amplify your love for others ❤️

Why learning to forgive is so important?

You may hold a belief that forgiveness is about allowing someone to hurt you... again.

Or you may believe that forgiving yourself, means exempting yourself for any wrong doing. 

So what is forgiveness about?

    

The truth is that forgiveness is all about YOU. 

1) It's about realizing you are a human being and it is perfectly OK to make mistakes.

2) It's about giving yourself and others, an opportunity to make things right.

3) It's about letting go of the negative energy you've stored deep within - all the hurt, pain, resentment and anger that often times you may have not been completely aware of ... Why hold on to this energy? 

4) It's allowing you to let go of the issue and move on to bigger and greater things - life is too short and they're so much to do and accomplish. 

Why waste your precious energy on feelings that leave you stuck or make you feel down?

And lastly, you should be thankful for all the mistakes that you and others have done. If only for casting light on what is bothering you, and giving you the opportunity to make amends.  

It helps to remember, if God can be merciful, so can we ...

TO ERR IS HUMAN; TO CORRECT, DEVINE

What is the most prominent feature of the Creator?  

He is the Creator and no one decides for him.  

It is also a dominant feature of the human being. 

Who creates success for me? Only me!  You can not create success for any person but yourself.  

A person can only be satisfied when something comes to him from his own power - when he knows that he created it. 

Just as no one can do for the Creator, we do not like to have things handed to us.  There are many stories about people who had won the lottery, or inherited a large sum of money, and then their lives got destroyed by the "winning".  

You can not be truly happy unless you have created something on your own.   

You can not make anyone happy - not as a partner, not as a parent and not as a friend - you are solely responsible for your own happiness.  

The world was built on an inherent contradiction right from the start: man was created to make mistakes, that is how he learns and progresses. 

So, do not look at mistakes / failures as the end of the world. 

TO ERR IS HUMAN; TO CORRECT, DIVINE. 

So when you make a mistake, see it as an opportunity to fix it - before it was "broken" there was nothing to fix.  

For example, after you've had a fight with your loved one, making up is much sweeter if you know how to forgive and move on.

Yes, it may be hard work but it pays off at the end.   

You did not come into the world to be perfect, you did not come to do things "right".   

You're obviously going to make mistakes, and as long as you live you will make mistakes: the more you do, the more mistakes you'll make.  

There is no point in waiting for the perfect relationship, perfect career, or perfect life - forget it - it all comes only through hard work and perseverance.  

Perfect life, means the end of life. It's death. You are not here in order to be perfect. You came here to work on yourself. 

You came here to turn the imperfect to perfect. To complete the whole - to earn your success.  

You did not come here in search of the perfect. There is no such thing as perfection. 

What is perfect is how you deal with the imperfect.  You can let it destroy you, or you can say to yourself: how do I get the most out of this ... How do I take this darkness in my life and transform it to Light? 

As always, the choice is yours ~