Friday, November 27, 2015


"What can I tell you .. It's very difficult .." Said Ruth (factious). "I know I need a change", she continued in her troubled voice, "but somehow I can not bring myself to do anything about it."

In my line of work as a life coach, I often come across similar cases as to that of Ruth. She is not alone ...

There are many women, who "wake up" one day and decide "that's it, enough already!"

They've kept themselves busy all day long with matters concerning the family and the household, and suddenly realize they do not even know who they really are, and what they want out of life beyond the family nest.

It's not that caring for themselves, does not matter, but it's just that it wasn't exactly "staring" in their list of priorities.

Most of their time and energy is invested in taking care of their families; they then reach a point, which usually comes after the children have grown, that it's no longer enough; They feel that they want more out of life.

The conflict arises thereafter: on one hand, they say, "the time has come for me to realize myself, I fulfilled my "civic duty" .. And on the other hand, they do not want to feel guilt and shame as they assert confidently, "it's my time now."

What many do not realize, is that it does not have to be one or the other, they can have both; The name of the game is balance!

Naturally, God willing, our children reach adolescents and "everyone turns to their business", isn't that so?

In order to avoid a situation in which we women feel emptiness, uselessness, we should continue doing, and it doesn't necessarily mean that it has to be family related. 

It's ok if it's just us! Because bottom line when we're ok, or better, everyone around us benefits, isn't that so? 

We all want to realize our wants and needs; To feel fulfilled. It's ok if being a parent isn't enough any more. 

Actually, it's completely natural. It's called being a part of the constant flow - the different phases in life - we change as we go. 

Enough talking, what can you put into actuality right now? 

But before we begin, firstly, we must possess an inner knowing that it's never too late!

Take yourself on a date! No one deserves this more than you do! 

1) Ask yourself; What is important to me? What do I still want to achieve in life? What do I value most other than loving and caring for family and loved ones? 

What else is out there for me to still do? What am I good at? What are my best attributes? What dreams do I want to bring into actuality? What gift can I bring to the world that will have an impact beyond my personal benefit? 

2) Learn to manage your time effectively: Be clear about what you need to accomplish each day. That is, if you value progress, moving forward. 

3) Make a list of what you do on a daily basis, and how much time you spend doing it. You may find that you spend valuable time on things that otherwise would contribute to your progress. 

4) Create a realistic action plan, one that will not interfere with your daily duties.

5) Time for action; Take a course, apply to a university, send out resume, create a business, and so on.

No one wants to reach their  "golden years", feeling like they have missed out on life; Do yourself a favor and for once, take care of YOU! 

Thank you for visiting, if you have any question or comments, please don't hesitate to contact me at any time. 

Wishing you a great weekend, 

Love & Blessings, 
Yours Estee ❤️