LOVE THY NEIGHBOR

Humor me if you will, just for a moment...

I believe, that there isn't "right" or "wrong". There's only perception. I don't believe that anything that we are aware of is random.

I do believe that there are certain things and ideas which are beyond our perception, outside our understanding, and what we may perceive as being logical.

Often times we'll be experiencing some"technical difficulties" in conceptualizing certain beliefs, or judgments that are not founded on proof, or certainty...

But, if you give it a try, with an open mind, a mind that isn't searching for ways to rebuttal, but rather consider a different point of view, an alternative approach, you will see "things" a bit differently... 

Please don't allow the title to scare you away;

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR...

We are compelled to believe that there's more to us than merely the images we see reflecting back at us from the mirror. There has to be "something" greater dwelling within. The energy, the diverse emotions we feel, our racing thoughts - they're all a part of what we commonly refer to as our soul.

It is our ever expanding and eternal higher self. 

We are not composed of just our bodies. 

There's a specific purpose for each of us being here on earth. It doesn't seem logical that we only came here for the reason of simply existing. Waking up day after day, going to work, raising our children and doing countless mindless tasks.

It's really all about our souls.

Each soul chose to come forth and experience circumstances throughout its life time span, which would provide it (our soul) with the opportunities to be connected to the light as opposed to the darkness, with each choice that we make. These manifestations of circumstance didn't just happen to "show up", but rather so we can take advantage of the position we're in and make as many positive, well intentioned choices.

These choices would potentially turn each "darkened corner" appearing in our lives into a lighted one. Simply meaning, with the correct mindset, we'll feel obliged to always come from a place of love and compassion: to love the other as we do ourselves. This of course, takes maturity, awareness and a deeper understanding of how things work. 

Once we will fully comprehend that is our purpose; to constantly grow, evolve, and upgrade ourselves to better human beings, we'll allow the modification to come about more smoothly. And than, we will become different in some way. 

By modifying ourselves, we'll be able to bring about a better version of ourselves and a tremendous benefit, not only in our own lives, but also to the lives of those around us.

We need not lose our identity or essence in order to become more refined. Ultimately, we'll become just like a polished diamond, shining brightly from within, with each act of love that we'll be participating in. 

Because we are all ONE. 

Each of us represents a Godly sparkle, a tiny piece of the whole. A part of the wonderful, and wondrous world we're all sharing together as ONE.. — 

HOW TO FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY

HOW TO TAKE THE NEGATIVE, from NEGATIVE THINKING? 

If you find yourself immersed in negativity, know that you have the power to change it - pull out the "sting" and stop the burn! 

You may think you are an innocent bystander, allowing yourself to sink deeper into desperation, but you are not!

You don't have to think those thoughts, as we said before, they are just thoughts - these thoughts hold a low vibrational frequency which causes us nothing but harm.

We don't function well when we don't feel well.

Therefore, it is our responsibility for own good, as well as for those around us, to change how we feel.

Here is a three step process you can do as soon as you catch yourself feeling any kind of negativity:

1 - change your body positioning - if you are lying down, get up and walk, jump, sit, do whatever is necessary to change your current physical state.

2 - change your internal dialogue - what are you saying to yourself?

If you are beating yourself up for failing or feeling like a victim because someone had a bad day and poured their negativity on you, change the words - "my husband had a bad day .. His words are not directed at me... It is just his way of blowing off steam..."

3 - change your focus - what are you concentrating on? Are you feeling badly about yourself? Are you focused on your problem?

What will happen if instead, you begin searching for a solution to your problem?

Use this tool to change your state of mind. After all, your number one job is to feel good, isn't that so?

HOW TO SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP

Let's face it, relationships are not easy - in order to have a successful marriage or partnership, you must realize that it doesn't just happen on its own! 

You must be willing to invest time and effort in order to create and maintain a healthy union  where you can share love, respect, and common interests. 

We are complex beings as it is - we each come come with "baggage" and our own unique story - it can be challenging for two different people, trying to coexist in one home.  

Let's get things straight:

for a long lasting partnership you don't have to be identical and he or she doesn't have to be perfect - hopefully you have realized by now, there is no such thing as a perfect mate.

Right from the very beginning, you need to know who you are, and in the same token, what is important to you - you have to be able to be honest with yourself and your partner - otherwise, sooner or later, trouble will arise. 

You must take time to really get to know who your partner is - the more information you gather, the more closeness you will be able to create. 

The more you know, the more you'll reduce the chances for misunderstanding and unnecessary pain. 

If you are experiencing "technical difficulties" in your marriage, do not wait - often times when too much time has lapsed, the relationship's foundation may be compromised.  

Reach out and seek for help BEFORE it's too LATE!

Do not wait until the love has gone out the window, and another relationship has failed.

For a relationship to truly work, it takes an incredible amount of love and dedication by both partners for success to be achieved, but it is very possible - you just need to want it badly enough! 

Contact me today and allow me to help you learn how to speak your "partner's language", in order to create the loving and supportive relationship you desire. 

You can do it - I can help! 

FORGIVENESS IS FOR YOU

Real forgiveness is our innate ability to feel safe and free to be who we truly are.

One of the most important components of life, is the ability to forgive ourselves and others - in order to be at peace within, we need to allow it to penetrate our core. 

The inability to forgive is like inviting negative energy in, which does not allow us to live life fully - it affects every aspect of our lives. 

We must realize that holding on to any negative energy created by our past thoughts, feelings, and experiences, is keeping us imprisoned in the "cells of our mind".

Negativity hinders our efforts to be successful in life - it must be acknowledged and released. 

The idea of making peace within our soul is not just mind talk; It's bigger than that - it's a way of being ok with all the experiences, contradictions, and different expressions of one's life story.

Self-forgiveness is finally allowing yourself to remove the "big rock" sitting on your chest and breathing freely after holding your breath for too long. 

Why do I need to let go?

Think about it: two wrongs don't make a right! 

Forgiving is not about forgetting, it's about not letting a wrong hold you back!

In the end we don't have to answer for what others do to us - only for what we do to them. 

WORKING ON COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP

What would your intimate relationship be like, if you and your partner communicated better with one another?

Would you get to know more about who your partner truly is, perhaps even for the very first time?

 

As a result, would you  function better in life? would you become lighter? happier? less stressed? 

Of course you would!

Let's admit it, when things are tense in our intimate relationship, we are not completely ourselves, right? 

It affect us on a very deep level; we don't operate the same. 

What is the benefit of working on our communication skills?

When we come from a place of trying to make things better for the benefit of the relationship, as opposed to our own selfish gain, the whole relationship dynamic changes.  

We communicate, we talk and do our best to find a solution; Not because we want to prove the injustice of the other, or because of our own desire to be right. But, because we want to do the right thing - not necessarily what we feel like. 

Why? Because we made a decision to change so we can enjoy life more!

So instead of trying to figure out the problem, why not look for what YOU CAN do to alleviate the situation.

Do what you CAN do. 

Do what is in YOUR control to improve things.

If there is a will, you'll find some way ...

Perhaps begin by listening to understand your partner?

HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVITY IN LIFE

At times when we are in the presence of a friend, a member of our family, or a coworker, we feel negativity and we don't know why or where it is coming from.

What if you accepted the possibility that this energy you feel at times, does not belong to you? 

Is it possible that it had been projected on to you?

You must take care of your internal world - do not mistakenly confuse other people's energy as your own.

Instead you could say to yourself: I'm feeling distress, I am feeling heaviness, but it does not mean that it belongs to me. 

I look at the hurt and say thank you for making me aware that I now need to give myself some love. 

Once You become aware and connected to your true feelings, no one can hurt you and nothing but truth and love can come out of you.

Often times people are not aware of how critical it is for them to know that they have a choice - you can choose how you want to feel!

Do not withhold your love, not for yourself and not for others. 

If you do, you will end up hurting yourself because you will not feel the love within you ...

You will be drifting away from your essence, from the pure love that you are ....

HOW TO END ANGER PROBLEMS

Release, let go, resolve, it is the only way to go. 

How should one end anger problems and achieve emotional cleansing?

What if you could once and for all, release the negative charge that you have on all your thoughts and emotions?

All the negative energy that has not been released yet, is damaging your health and sowing destruction in every area of ​​your life.

Is it not about time to make a change? To be free and happy? Be neutralized from anger?

After all, every time you feel anger or resentment towards someone, and you do not bother to "defuse the situation" the resentment becomes "stored" in your brain.

Then, every time you bring up this negative memory it becomes intensified - unknowingly you are perpetuating the pain you once felt.

Slowly but surely, the anger becomes embedded in your mind.

If you have not resolved the problem, it will return to haunt you, each time in a different way ...

You may believe you forgave and forgotten all about the pain, but the truth will come out in the way you treat those who have hurt you. 

If you do not let go and clear away the negativity within you, the feelings of resentment surf up again, and you end up hurting yourself by hurting the ones you love.

It becomes a perpetual cycle of nothing other than disappointment and pain.

Put an end to all the suffering in your relationships, let go of the hurt feelings.

If you find value in being happy, regardless of external factors you need to convert your anger into unconditional love for yourself.

Every moment wasted on anger is taking up precious time where you can experience love ...