Thursday, August 28, 2014

HOW TO GET MY POINT ACROSS WITHOUT ARGUING

Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a heated argument with someone, not knowing how you have arrived to that moment, where you completely "lost your head"? 

Why do we use this expression - lose our head - because we actually lose touch of our senses! 

I don't know what happened to me, I lost my mind... Does that sound familiar??

Surely many of us have had this experience at some point in their lives. 

Often times when speaking with others, we lose track of our initial intention, because we're so desperately wanting to "win" or be "right". 

The problem is that these arguments come at a very high cost and can be avoided: our health, relationships, and love life, just to name a few, all suffer as a result. 

So what can we do about it? How can we avoid getting there?

Before you speak, think about what you are trying to accomplish - what is the outcome you are hoping to achieve. 

Are you trying to persuade someone to think as you do, so you can see eye to eye? So you can feel validated by them? What purpose do you have in mind? 

Focus your attention on getting your message across, so that the other person can better understand you, rather than trying to win the argument, then, you would never get to the "boiling point".

Be clear on what you are trying to communicate - understand your own intentions and motives - become mindful and sensitive to the feelings of others.  

When you truly understand others, you can make them happy by just being yourself - be authentically you.